Helping Children Feel Secure in an Uncertain World
The news can be full of scary stories and information, especially for children. Our current situation has brought about even more concern for everyone in the world. If adults are feeling panicked, imagine how children must be feeling. And no matter the age, children can be emotionally affected by the news and begin feeling anxious about what they are hearing. For this reason, it’s important for parents to spend time connecting with their children and implementing ways that help them feel secure.
And, of course, during this worldwide turmoil, parents may also feel unsure and struggle with what to say to their children. But this is the time when parents should take the opportunity to help members in the family reconnect with each other, which will help everyone feel more secure. Having honest discussions about what everyone is feeling is vital to processing the information in a healthier way. It’s important that parents have these conversations to help ease fear about our “new normal” and implement strategies that will leave children feeling more assured.
This is the perfect opportunity to implement strategies developed by the SKILLZ organization. Since the program was created based on research in the areas of child development and psychology, the methods can be applied to any situation. The Parent SKILLZ program incorporates ways to strengthen the parent-child bond which is crucial within the status of our world today. In addition to this, the D.O.S.E. method is easily implemented within the Parent SKILLZ and uses strategies that help counteract the rush of cortisol that everyone is feeling.
In the Parent SKILLZ system, there are 8 skills that were developed. While all of them are equally important, attunement, connection, patience and nurturing are a good place to start in regards to what we are facing, as a nation, today. It’s important for parents to be attuned to their child’s feelings regarding the overflow of information and being separated from their friends. Being patient with them with questions they may have or frustrations they may feel are important. Spending time connecting with them is essential to them feeling more secure and nurturing them through these tough times will help them feel more at ease.
In helping children feel more comfort in these times, implementing strategies that will boost positive brain chemicals and neutralize cortisol, which is released when we are stressed or fearful, is helpful. Using this strategy along with the Parent SKILLZ is invaluable. Parents can increase dopamine by setting up time for families to do fun activities together. Giving hugs and spending time connecting with each other increases oxytocin which fosters trust and stability. By setting a positive mood, parents can
increase serotonin which will make everyone more at ease. And boosting endorphins by going for a walk as a family or doing an online workout together will put everyone in a better mood.
In uncertain times, families can ease the anxiety by connecting with each other and making the best of the situation. By implementing Parent SKILLZ and finding ways to boost the positive chemicals in the brain, parents can create an environment that fosters security for their family. In doing this, a stronger family bond will be created and getting through the tough times, together, will be easier.
Author: Jennifer Salama of Skillz Worldwide.
Jennifer is a 4th-degree black belt and has been training in martial arts since 2001. She has a Masters Degree in Child Psychology and has embraced the SKILLZ curriculum because of its focus on child development and using Martial Arts as a vehicle to develop the child as a whole.